“I am fairly new to Al-Anon. What has helped me the most is to be able to distance myself from others’ behaviors and attitudes. The slogan ‘I didn’t cause it; I can’t control it; I can’t cure it’ has been a lifesaver for me more than once. Before Al-Anon, I tried to fix everything so there was peace again. I didn’t value myself enough to care or question what I wanted. If things turned out badly, I would beat myself up. If things turned out good, I breathed a sign of relief. My own personality was being chipped away by others, until I didn’t know what I liked or wanted. Through Al-anon I am finding myself.”Anonymous
“I woke up this morning much earlier than usual and noticed racing thoughts, focused on my daughter’s current struggles with her partner’s relapse and the challenge that presents for her and their child. My thoughts had that familiar texture of desperation for a solution and pushing myself to ‘help.’ As I became aware of the push, I reached for my favorite slogan: Let go and Let God.”Anke
“My wife died recently. It was devastating. I didn’t think I could live without her. Thank God I had some Al-Anon recovery within me. The 12 Steps led me, at last, to gratitude. I have been carried along through grief and pain by the power of gratitude. I am blessed to have spent 52 years with this amazing wife and soulmate. I am grateful for the Al-Anon friends who have supported me all the way. And I am grateful for, at last, finding strength and courage through a loving guide – my Higher Power. I have found gratitude to be the secret to healing and moving on with my new life, supported by my Al-Anon community.Ed C.
“I deserve to be happy. This program has taught me to be happy and love myself.”Anonymous
“Al-Anon has been a Godsend to me! These friends truly understand and love me through my trials and my triumphs. So very thankful to have found this group!”Lydia
“Al-Anon has taught me that a problem is not there to be solved. It is there as a messenger to be listened to. It has moved life from ‘push through’ to ‘flow with.'”Anke
“Al-Anon has become my haven, from a very stressed and overwhelmed mother of an alcoholic, to a person filled with hope, peace, compassion, and love. It’s been amazing how quickly I felt loved, accepted, and understood. The slogans help me every day. I’m striving to let go and let God have the reins of my life, as well as my family’s lives. I can never thank my Al-Anon family enough for their compassion, honesty, love, and understanding.”Lydia
“I can’t change the ‘crazy,’ but I don’t have to participate in it.”Anonymous
“In Al-Anon, I learned to be gentle with myself, as well as with my loved ones. ‘Rigorous honesty’ is not brutal honesty. I can convey my thoughts and feelings of hurt in a gentle way and remain at peace with myself and others.”Linda M.
“One Day at a Time means so much to me. I started coming to Al-Anon because of my alcoholic father-in-law. Since, I have lost a relationship with my youngest son, which was unbearable at first. Then my granddaughter became addicted to drugs, along with her boyfriend. Two children were born to them, and my husband and I now have custody of these children. Having already been in Al-Anon gave me the tools to help deal with these situations. I face all situations “One Day at a Time.”Anonymous
“I am grateful for the Al-Anon program, especially Step Five. It was a real turning point in my life. The hardest part was admitting to myself my own self-righteousness and arrogance. I found that honesty equals freedom. Thank you, God, for using the Twelve Steps to help me grow up.”Anonymous
I spent a lot of time trying to decide if my husband was an alcoholic. I presented a case to myself both ways: He’s never been arrested; he goes to work; he must not be an alcoholic. Then I would present the case that he gets drunk every night by himself in his garage. Back and forth I went, trying to decide. But after working my Al-Anon program, going to meetings, talking with my sponsor, I realized that if my husband’s drinking bothered me, then I needed to take of myself and my feelings about it, and I could let my husband decide how he felt about his own drinking.Bonnie W.